Topic: i need your advice, guys.

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February 9, 2012 at 8:16 pm #51406
Sydney	people of nerdfightaria, i need your help! i’ve been talking to my mum, trying to see if she will let me go to a nerdfighter gathering, but currently not succeeding. she is way too protective and doesn’t quite understand how i can know people through the internet and know for certain that they aren’t all creepy middle aged men. she doesn’t understand the whole nerdfightaria/youtube thing, and i don’t know how else to explain to her that it is not at all dodgy. do you have any ideas that i can show/tell her to help her see that it’s not as bad as she thinks it is? -DFTBA
February 9, 2012 at 8:48 pm #51421
Tim	I assume that chloroform is out of the question…
February 9, 2012 at 8:50 pm #51423
Rachael	Do you have a irl friend that is willing to go with you?
February 9, 2012 at 8:54 pm #51427
Sydney	none of my friends like or are even aware of nerdfightaria, let alone to go to a gathering. there is maybe one friend, but she would end up getting bored and standing around awkwardly.. you see my problem?
February 9, 2012 at 9:08 pm #51434
Munk	Have you tried showing her some of John and Hank’s videos? It might not be enough to convince her, but perhaps seeing what all the commotion’s about will make it easier to convince her that (most) nerdfighters are reasonable, awesome people.
February 9, 2012 at 9:19 pm #51442
Bridget	it might seem embarrassing, but why don’t you ask her to come with you? then she could see for herself there’s nothing creepy about the community. once she’s sure you’re safe with that group, she’ll back off and let you do your thing. she just doesn’t want you dead in a ditch. I can understand where she’s coming from because my parents were sort of the same way and honestly, I’d do the same if it were my kid. whenever I joined a new hobby with irl meets I’d take my mom along so she’d know that I’m not hanging out with creeps and know that there are people she could trust to watch out for me. so again, you might not think of it as the coolest idea, and it might be embarrassing, but it may be the best way to go about it.
February 9, 2012 at 9:23 pm #51445
Liana	Maybe you could find some videos with footage from past gatherings. That way she could see what you mean when you talk about a whole bunch of awesome internet people getting together to do awesome nerdfightastic things, and maybe she could see that the people who go to the gatherings aren’t massive creepers.
February 9, 2012 at 9:31 pm #51450
Sydney	@munk i do like your idea, i just don’t think it will help my mums theory that all-people-on-the-internet-are-middle aged-creeps D: (not AT ALL saying John or Hank are creeps, but from her point of view it may seem that way) @bridgetf hmm maybe, she will probably end up doing that anyway, regardless. she still seems to think that i could wander off and get abducted or something. :3 @bananasflyupwards i think that could work actually, i will have to try that. i do understand where my mum is coming from, by the way, because i would be the same, i just want to show her there is actually nothing to worry about. it’s just finding a way of doing that which is the problem..
February 9, 2012 at 10:17 pm #51465
Devina	Definitely agreeing with @BridgetF Not only is it a great way for your mom to get to know you and the kinds of things you like (while it may not be true in every family, my mom and I have had some serious bonding issues in the past) but as Bridget said she’ll be able to meet the people you’re hanging out with which will make her feel loads better.
February 9, 2012 at 10:32 pm #51475
Tim	I concur, the best way to put her mind at ease is for her to meet nerdfighters, realise that we’re not paedophiles and thus trust nerdfighteria more in future
February 19, 2012 at 4:08 pm #56586
Luke Brekke	Also, I’d recommend not telling her about Mike Lombardo.
February 21, 2012 at 1:32 am #57245
Vincent	I wrote your mom a letter. I hope it’ll help. Also make her watch some videos from other gatherings. (BTW: Did you ever realize that title “Your Pants: Where fun stuff happens” does actually sounds a bit pedophilic. I guess it doesn’t really helps the cause.) Dear Sydney’s mom, my name is Vincent, I’m 20 years old university student and I’m a Nerdfighter. Your daughter, whether you like it or not, is also a Nerdfighter. Don’t be afraid, there is nothing wrong about it. Nerdfighters is nothing more, but community of young people that share certain common interest. Whether it’s passion for literature, art, music, technology, science, math, or other nerdy things. And, just as anybody else, we tend to seek out company of people that share these interests and that’s what internet is really good for. Nerdfighteria is a community of hundreds of thousands of people from all around the world, it’s a great place to meet and get to know lots of very nice and intelligent young people and make some great friendships. Unfortunately there is only so much social interaction you can have online and that’s the reason why Nerdighter Gatherings exist. They are events where Nerdfighters can meet in person and get to know each other better. Yes, there is always the risk that the people “from the internet” are not who they claim to be, but let me remind you that we’re quite a big community, there are thousands of pages of discussions, thousands of video blogs including videos from other gatherings to prove it’s existence. Ask yourself if it seems possible that it’s all made up and this is just a big elaborate plan to abuse young girls. I completely understand that you worry about your daughter and you don’t want to let her go to a gathering with some strange people, but I must appeal to you that you don’t refuse the idea just based on an assumption that no one on the internet is to be trusted. Actually I would ask you to go with her and get to know the community as well. But please, don’t let her miss out on event like this, it really can mean very much to a Nerdfighter. Best wishes, Vincent The Nerdfighter
February 22, 2012 at 2:03 am #57673
Natalie	When I met people it was a little different because the people I was meeting were living around 5,000 miles away from my home. But they were concerned obviously, so I showed them some videos of some of the people I was going to meet, I tried to organise a skype chat with one of them aswell, but the 8 hour time difference didn’t work in my favour. Anywho the videos alone worked. They realised it would be too much work to make videos so frequently just to lure some British girl to the states and let me go.
February 22, 2012 at 2:16 am #57676
Kat	@Sydney how old are you? If you’re 15 or younger, I can definitely understand where your mom’s coming from. I’d say to wait until you’re 17-18, old enough to take care of yourself in case something happens (you get lost, your car breaks down, your phone is eaten by a bear, etc.)